By Megha Sehgal Last Updated:
If there was a secret formula or a rule book on how to make a marriage work, there would have been far happier homes than now. The truth is, there is no general formula that can be applied to all. However, there are some basics that can make any relationship healthy and long-lasting.
We have come up with the list to try 'to a T' to make your marriage a happy one. Here are our nine Ts you need in your marriage.
The importance of this word cannot be overemphasised. You need to have complete trust in your partner as well as in the relationship. No matter how bad situations get, never lose trust in the foundation of your relationship. In fact, trust is the base of the relationship, so if base is not strong then relationship goes for a toss.
Still questioning the importance of trust in your relationship? Then, read this: 9 Things That Couples Who Trust Each Other Can Easily Do
Decide to have tea together at least once in a day. If not tea, then coffee- doesn't matter! The idea is to dedicatedly take out time for each other. Taking time for each other doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to take out hours; miracles can happen in 5 to 10 minutes of tea time as well.
Whenever you get time with your partner, talk to them. Do not assume that your partner will understand your silence. No person on earth can read minds (yes, your partner is not a telepath); so start talking. So, tell them whatever is on your mind, and ask them to do the same.
Want to learn some more happy relationship secrets? Read: 7 Secret Little Things All Happy Couples Do Every Day
Big problems may seem trivial when you look at their funny side. Bring in some humour in your relationship, and you both will be the ones laughing out loud!
Laugh about silly things together. Life and relationship both can be very boring if you are serious all the time. So, tickle the funny bone as relationship is truly a crazy ride.
Another base of the good relationship is the temptation. Seduce each other, and bring out the passion; good intimacy is essential for a healthy relationship.
Smartphones in our hands can do wonders; seduce your partner via text messages or with a voice mail, or something like this whenever you can. The idea is to be attractive and make your partner longing for intimacy. Seduction is the key for long term relationship.
Ladies, want some tips to tempt you man? Read: 7 Super-Romantic Tricks To Make Your Husband Fall In Love With You Again
Travelling together can work wonders for a relationship. Take small trips, if not vacations. Explore new places even if in your own city. All this will help you spend some quality time together.
And, by travelling together, you will get a chance to create new everlasting memories together. What's more? According to researches and surveys, couples who travel more often share a more intimate and stronger relationship.
Want to know what more amazing things can a vacation do for you and your relationship? Read: 6 Reasons Why You Must Take A Vacation Before Ending Your Marriage
Every person is different, and you need to respect and understand that. Just like you tune a radio to listen a song clearly, you need to tune in to hear each other's thoughts clearly. Accept your partner for who they are and they will accept you for who you are.
The biggest mistake in any relationship is trying to change the other person. Do not ever make the other person puppet of your hands, adjust your tuning with them.
When it comes to household chores, or other responsibility, always take turns and divide things amongst yourselves. When only one person shoulders the entire burden of one or the other responsibility, it is bound to take toll on the shoulder… your relationship.
Just because society says that women are meant to take care of the home, and men are supposed to earn the bread, doesn’t mean it is a rule. Well, break a rule or two, before it breaks your relationship.
We get so involved in our day to day lives that, sooner or later, we start taking everything from our partner to our relationship for granted. This is not a sign of a healthy relationship. Be thankful for your partner, their qualities, and your relationship.
Even if you are not good at saying them, then let your actions speak. Don’t leave any chance of expressing your gratitude for having them in your life, and we are sure, your partner will eagerly reciprocate the same!
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If your relationship seems too difficult to continue; even then give it a last chance by taking some advice either from elders or professional help from marriage counsellors. We are not perfect; there can be times we can take wrong hasty decision to break up, and seeking advice could help us from taking any disastrous step.
Marriage counselor, Dr. Nisha Khanna says, “Many couples come to us and most of them benefited. There are couples wherein one partner has already made up mind to breakup but other partner still wants to continue. So here we have the tough time in convincing the other to at least listen; but still counselling does wonders. Nothing is impossible to solve.”
To begin with, right marriage is essential. You can't make a great dish with wrong ingredients, after all! Even with the right person, there are things you need to work on to make your marriage a happy one.
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