By Megha Sehgal Last Updated:
Marriage is certainly the new beginning of life. Everything changes for a girl right from her surname to her home, her priorities and most importantly her identity. Majority of girls in our country are brought up in an extremely traditional manner where she is taught to strictly or rather we should say, blindly follow her in-laws.
Whether or not a woman chooses to change her surname, her identity changes post-marriage. So, here we bring to you 7 such ways that can help you hold your individuality even after marriage.
In order to maintain your identity, the most important thing is to have a job. Make sure that you have something that keeps you away from your home at least few hours a day. This is not to undermine the role of a housewife, but your career and achievements will keep you focused on something other than just the household work.
Marriage brings great responsibility and thus comes the stress to be perfect. Take out time for yourself; breathe in and out, enjoy the solo time, relax and pamper yourself. This alone time will bring magic in your life as it will re-energise you. This will bring all positive thoughts and self-appreciation in your mind.
Just continue to keep in touch with your friends. Make and maintain friends you confide in, who keep you grounded. Don’t just hang out with you husband’s couple gang. You will find strength when you need it from people who are on your side.
Explore and re-discover yourself by learning new and different things or for that matter, your hobby. Attend some short-term workshops like 2-day photography course or cake baking course or something you love doing in your spare time. The point here is to make yourself busy in something you really like and love to learn.
A woman’s identity is not defined just by motherhood, so don’t rush to motherhood. Take your time and understand the implications of having a child. Communicate with your spouse on who along with you will look after the children. Take stock of your finances, your dreams and your time before you make that decision.
When you feel strong, you feel more confident about yourself. Take out time to exercise regularly. It will not only keep you physically fit but will also make your mind healthy. Managing time between household work and professional life can be difficult, but time for exercise is essential for you and your health.
Believe in giving a little space to each other. Being married doesn’t mean that you will stick to each other all the time. Encourage your hubby to spend time with his friends alone.
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Your identity need not be defined by the roles you play, but by the strong values you believe in. All you need to do is just balance between being you and being a perfect bahu.
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