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So, you have cleared the first round of marriage selection –kundli milan, and now it’s time for the second round – meeting the future in-laws. You must be excited yet nervous; thinking about what you should talk and what not, especially with your to-be mother-in-law, right?
Well, you are at the right place because we have the answer to your question. We have mentioned few points that will help you to be prepared for your first big meeting. So, want to know what they are? Then read on.
Yes, this is the first and the foremost rule of the meeting. Don’t try to impress your would-be mother-in-law by saying that, “Oh! Yes, I love cooking”, when you just don’t like it, or even don’t know how to cook! Always remember, a false impression can create a lot of problems later on.
You have met the groom for the first time and you instantly connected with him. But, there are a few things or let’s say habits that you disliked. Whatever it is, don’t start the conversation with, “your son has so and so bad habits,” or “I think he smokes too much, may be you should have done something to stop him from being a smoker,” or anything which raises a question on her upbringing. Trust us, no mother would like to hear about her upbringing from anyone. You will definitely feel her wrath.
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And if it is a love marriage, then please resist from sharing the intimate details of your relationship. Telling her how well her son is under the sheets or how great kisser he is, are some of the things that any mother would not be pleased to hear. So, keep such information strictly to yourself only.
No matter how frank, lovely, sweet or innocent your prospective mother-in-law is, never ever tell her about your past love affairs, if you had any. This is one thing which only your better half should know. You definitely don’t want her to do your character assassination in front of everyone. So, it should be a well-guarded secret. After all, every mom wants a sundar sushil bahu for her son!
Never share your family secrets with her even if she knows your family very well, or is some far of relative of some of your family member.
If you don’t agree with her on certain issues, instead of arguing with her in the very first meeting, just try to ignore that topic or politely say that, “well you may be right on your place, but I have a different opinion about this matter” and don’t put forward your point unless asked.
If you have no plans of staying with the in-laws after marriage then first talk to your prospective spouse about this and know what his take is. Don’t talk about your future plans straight away with your mother-in-law. Instead, let your would-be husband do this job in his own way.
And you are now all prepared to meet your future mother-in-law. We know this is one nerve wrecking situation since all eyes will be on you, but just be yourself, and you will pass this round with flying colours.
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