We are sure that everyone has read numerous articles and seen several TV shows giving suggestions on how to be the perfect daughter-in-law. There has also been a lot written, shown and talked about “bad” and scheming mothers-in-law. But ever wondered what makes a good mother-in-law? If your son is about to tie the knot soon, this will be a fantastic read for you. Take a look at these tips that will definitely help you be a great mother-in-law.
Who said change is bad? In fact, change is always good! Learn to accept it. All your life you have been in control of the house and your family. But it is now time to let go and be a little more flexible. Let your daughter-in-law feel at home and wanted. She is now a part of your family, and let her feel that you want her to be so.
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Make her a part of your discussions and plans, let her take responsibilities and decisions for the house at times. Show her that you trust her to make the right decisions.
Remember that the factor that binds both of you is your son, who is now her husband. Stop hinting your sole right over your son. Both of you love him dearly. So, never try to compete with her to show him how you are better than her in certain things, for instance at cooking or taking care of his likes and dislikes.
Do not make him choose between the two of you. It is a beautiful, happy and new phase of life for him and her, so try and avoid anything that will be a hindrance to their happiness.
Read to know what makes a mother-in-law an important part of the family.
The traditional Indian set up gives a lot of importance to the boy’s side of the family. Because of this, they are known to be dominating or demanding over the girl’s side. Even though the scenario is changing fast, there is still a subtle overpowering air about the boy’s family. Rise above that! Be courteous to her family. Treat them with respect, and as one of your own.
Seeing how good you are to her family, she will respect you even more, and consider your family as her own too. The transition into the new family will become easier for her this way.
Avoid being sarcastic at any cost! Don’t criticise her about things like the clothes she wears, her way of cleaning, cooking, etc. If you don’t like the way she does a particular thing, talk to her about it in a polite manner and tell her how you feel.
Don’t use harsh words or taunts. Also, never criticise her in front of your son, it will make her feel humiliated. It can also lead to major fights between the two. Help them build their marriage, not break it! Give her all the love you can, and she will be your biggest fan.
Lastly, the most important thing to remember is to treat her exactly the way you would expect your daughter being treated. We are sure that you are aware how difficult it is for any girl to leave her family and become a part of a new family. The new life, the changes and expectations might make her nervous.
Try to ease her nervousness by treating her with love, care and respect. It is true that you cannot replace her mother; but you can definitely be her best friend and support system. After all, this will also make your son happy, wouldn’t it?
Apart from these basic rules, read to know how you can make your son a better husband, and make the new life even more beautiful for your daughter-in-law.
These tips are not that difficult to follow, are they? Try these out, and notice how beautifully your daughter-in-law blends in your family.
