There are innumerable pop psychology books (“Why Men Lie & Women Cry”, “He’s Just Not That Into you”, “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”, “Why men don’t listen & women can’t read maps”, to name just a few) that try to define and explain the differences between men and women.
When most girls get married, they expect to share everything with their new husbands. As a bride to be, do you feel the same way? Don’t be too surprised if you are disappointed, ladies. In this article, I have enumerated some of the common questions that a newly wedded wife – or newly engaged fiancé, for that matter – may have about why the man in her life behaves the way he does.
Sometimes, he really is trying to make you angry
You know how sometimes men behave in such an obtuse and irritating fashion that it seems like they are deliberately trying to make you angry? Guess what? You are right – sometimes, all your man wants to do is pick a fight with you.
It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you. It has to do with the fact that most men view marriage with feelings of latent resistance – after all, the wife is generally in a position of authority of her husband (in the household, at least), and it is quite natural to want to rebel against authority.
So don’t be too surprised if he insists on grabbing a smoke every now and then even if you have asked him to quit, or if he continues to buy expensive things even if you have asked him to cut down on expenditure.
When he’s being nice to you, he wants something in return
Self interest is the main motivator behind all human behavior. So when your man is nice to you, he expects you to reciprocate. Does he encourage you to hang out with your gal pals on the weekends? It’s probably because he doesn’t want you to quibble when he hits the bar with his buddies.
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He will lie to you to get out of things he doesn’t want to do
Have you ever told a little white lie to someone to avoid hurting their feelings? Your man will do the same too. Don’t be too surprised if he ends up working late every day so that he’s home just in time for dinner. For many men, work functions as an excuse for a lot of things.
He will lie about money
Most men are very sensitive about the amount of money they earn. After all, it is directly related with their ability to be a good provider. If he is the sole breadwinner, then you can forget about finding out exactly how much he earns – unless you have the passwords to his bank account, of course. He may also have a credit card that you don’t know about for those occasions when he wants to purchase things without letting you know. The only way you can find out about it is to check his civil report.
Have you got any tips to share, based on your own experience?
