By Parul Singh Last Updated:
Sometimes, it is hard to tell whether your partner is manipulative or not, especially during the early period of your relationship. Initially, you might end up doing things for your partner just to make him or her happy, even when their requests make you uncomfortable.
Once in a while, it is fine but if it becomes a daily routine then you should be careful. Manipulation is like taking emotional advantage of a person. So, in case you want to know whether or not your partner manipulates you, then use these subtle signs to decode the answer.
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Remember every time you are just about to do something, your partner comes up and says things like ‘Hey, I don’t think you can do that, what do you think’ or ‘Are you sure you can handle the task all by yourself, I doubt it’, and you give up that task and surrender yourself to him/her without any complaints. Well, it is just a way to discourage you from doing things and always being dependent upon him/her for every little or big thing.
They criticise you whenever they get chance, even when they know deep inside that you have done the right thing. They are just too egoistic to admit it. That is why, they say such things to hurt your self-esteem and keep your morale down.
Your partner might have made some plans and you, for some reason, disagreed. So, instead of making some new plans with you, your partner will stop talking to you, avoid you and mentally harass you, until you agree to the plan. They will use emotional weapons just to get the work done.
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Because deep down you fear that he/she might ask for something, which you cannot do, or do not want to do, but still have to without any ifs and buts. Else, your spouse will utter some harsh words!
Even when it is not. Your partner uses his/her manipulative power to make you feel that you are source of the entire problem. And surprisingly, for a fraction of a second, even you believe it and end up apologising and pleasing your partner.
That is why your spouse will try to cut you off from socialising with your friends or even meeting your family members. Whenever you will plan a meeting with someone, he/she will come up with some excuse at the last moment to avoid any sort of meeting between you and your close ones.
Things like ‘Why are you dancing? College days are over, grow up now’, or ‘Why do you want to take up painting classes, you are just wasting your time’. Be it about anything, they will always discourage you.
Manipulation is the sign of insecurity, guilt and desire to control things one’s own way. For your manipulative partner, you are just a puppet, who should obey them and do things as per their wish. So, if any of these signs sound familiar to you, may be it is time for some reality check. Manipulative people will go to any extent to keep you in control, which is not good for you or for the relationship.
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