By Rashmi Walia Last Updated:
Marriage is a gory book with a very appealing cover, or perhaps travelling excitedly to Norway for a vacation, not knowing how to speak Norwegian! Mostly couples are just too excited to plan the wedding, and forget about finding ways to make the marriage work.
So, we did a bit of homework for you, while you enjoy your pre-wedding bliss. We have summed down 15 things you should surrender or quit doing before you decide to tie the knot.
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It is really exciting to upload pictures, and then read the comments and count ‘likes’ on social media channels. We as spectators also enjoy your mushy and ardent pictures. But hey, faux pas cannot go on forever! Stop shooting your mouth off and flying your own kite before people start opting for the ‘I don’t want to see this’ option on Facebook.
If you have shared a room with a messy person before (your younger sister or your roomie in the hostel, maybe), things might seem to be easier for you, but if you have been on your own so far, get ready to expect the unexpected! Stop being a cleanliness guru, and get accustomed to stinky socks on the bed, cluttered tables and scattered shoes.
Alternate food and ready-to-eat meals might not really be a good idea after you get hitched. Sharpen up your culinary skills on time. This isn’t just going to make life easier, but can also spice up your life.
Whether you stay till late at work to sort out the piling up files or to just chill out with your colleagues, staying back at work till late is definitely something you need to quit after your marriage, unless it is inescapable.
Respectfully separating from your mother and clinging to your husband for every need in life is one 'must thing' for all. If you still rely on your mother for every ditch in the road, you are gradually turning your husband against her.
Your fiancé is not going to buy it when you say we are just good friends. The best is to say goodbye to your now half boyfriend who once was everything. Unless you let go of your past relations, you will not be able to become a committed wife.
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Yes, you are still important. Probably, the best thing God ever did was defining you. But, after you tie the knot, defending your vanity is not something substantial to keep your marriage sailing through the tides. So shun away your ego, pride, self-obsession and vanity. Do not keep thinking that your way is always the right way.
Stop seeking a father figure in your husband, because this is never going to work. For women who have seen happy parents expect their husbands to be like their father, and those who grew up looking at a troubled marriage will always blame their husband for failing them, just like their father failed their mother. Your father and your husband are two very different people, stop building connections now.
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Do not expect your husband to be the Prince Charming whose sole aim in life is to please you. If he has to see you happy in life, he has to work hard for it. Your small (and big) expectations might divert him from his focus that might trouble you eventually.
No, you cannot unfriend your sister-in-law if she annoys you with sarcastic comments, nor can you block his people just because you are not so comfortable with their untimely calls. You will have to put up a pseudo relation with some of them, whether you want to, or not.
A marriage is a relationship between two people, with no room for anyone- be it your BFF, your sister or your mother. Learn to filter the information, and spill over only what is justified. This will make your bond stronger with your beau, and you will learn to solve your problems.
Marriages are based on a delicate foundation laid on trust. If you cannot trust your spouse, your marriage is in danger. Learn to trust, instead of spying on him, be it checking his last dialed, or re-confirming he is really out for a cricket match or not.
We all seek perfection in life, but if you expect perfection from your guy, you are never going to get it. No, you haven’t married Aamir Khan, so do not droop and snoop, but because seeking perfection will only end you up miserable. If he has something in the basket for you, let him surprise you.
We are glad that you know so much about his past, but being jealous or doubting your husband is a strict no. Let bygones be bygones! Wake up to a fresh morning and look ahead, instead of peeping into the past. Life is going to be rocking for you two!
It is understandable that you want to hang out with your BFFs, but you cannot leave your husband home alone. That should not let you drag him into the girl’s party at all. If it is a plan with him, be it with him; if it’s a friends’ plan, keep it limited to friends only.
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Getting married is your choice, but letting go of these things is a must for your marital boat to sail smoothly. What do you think? Do let us know in the comments section below.
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