By Palak Shah Last Updated:
The definition of marriage has undergone a sea change in the twentieth century. With live-in relations and same sex marriage garnering acceptance, the outlook towards marriage is certainly transforming. However, Sapna Bhavnani, who rose to fame after her short yet controversial stint in Bigg Boss season 6 has a totally different take on the institution of marriage. She did not try to defy the concept of marriage or go against it. But, what she did is indeed commendable. Instead of marrying a person, she decided to marry things which are close to her heart.
Sapna Bhavnani is a celebrity hairstylist and has also contributed in the field of fashion, writing, entertainment, photography and reality television. This 45-year-old lady has been into three failed marriages. Not the one to get depressed and frustrated about her personal life going awry, she went to a solo Europe trip after she was finally single.
What happened at a shop in Berlin changed her attitude towards marriage. She wanted to try a wedding gown but she was denied one, owing to her numerous body tattoos, shaved head and clumsy figure. At that point of time, she realised why the world was so obsessed towards perfection and decided to challenge the notion head on.
With what can be deemed as a debunking the idea of marriage she released her photography catalogue, which showcases her taking wedding vows with things, places and even a deceased friend.
Do have a look at her photographs which are powerful in each and every sense. These wedding vows are not done to garner publicity, but each one has a powerful message to convey.
Her thoughts were:
“With this marriage, I promise to love, respect, and cherish myself in rain and shine. Till death do us part.”
“With this marriage, I promise to be there when you get old and crabby (not that that will ever happen). When your meows gradually fade to silence, I promise to be your foundation. I’ve become strong now for you to lean on me. My sweet feline, I love you. Till death do us part.”
Her thoughts were:
“With this marriage, I promise to make you as beautiful as you make me feel; by walking gently on your skin, by planting smiles on your naked rocks when the hot sun beats down on them and by not judging you for the garbage thrown by us. I am Bombay. I am you and you are me. Till death do us part.”
She also said:
“With this marriage, I promise to bear all the pain and blood shed without complaining. The only story left to tell would be ours, but that would change with every new life. You are me and I am you. Till death do us part.”
“With this marriage, I promise to accept your infidelity as unintentional. Your disappearance will not signify abandon but abundance. My stories will be written with soul instead of ink. Till death do us part.”
With this alliance, she talks about the importance of wisdom and sanity in life, and said:
“With the marriage, I promise to explore the shit outta you, unafraid of consequences. I promise to show the world how beautiful and gentle you really are, even though you exist in a place we all are conditioned to hate from childhood. Your presence in our National Anthem to this day makes me realize your absence even more. The white colour of my skin makes me wonder of the men that came in and out of my lineage. Never has anything or anyone had my attention like you. You have rooted yourself inside me and I know this journey is going to be the longest I’ve ever had. Bring it on. Till death do us part.”
Her vows to him were:
“With this marriage, I promise to be your chomu forever. I don’t use words like “forever” ‘cuz i don’t believe in them, but somehow it feels apt with you. Even if I am lying, I know you will be ok with that. And that is exactly why I will always be around. Till death do us part.”
And, her final vows to him were:
“With this marriage, I promise to never take you for granted. There were moments when you reached out to talk but I was always busy. ‘Cuz no one pays any attention to those who smile all the time. You are gone, but you are not. I have become the woman who smiles all the time. Till death do us part.”
What Sapna has done is not for any kind of world records, but for breaking the stereotypes and myths that surround the concept of marriage. More power to you girl!