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Devrani and jethani might not be sisters by blood but they are sisters by law. You two are part of the same family and responsible for its well-being as well. Irrespective of whether you live under the same roof or not, you represent one clan.
It is illogical to expect that two individuals who have just met to have a smooth sailing from the day one. Both of you have come from different backgrounds and would need time to adjust to each other's ways. But once you have an understanding, you two will have a sister for the life.
We all have our own thought processes, we all are different. At times, it is the communication gap that leads to bumps in a relationship. If you need something from the other, just ask. Similarly, if you think that there is a better way of doing something, then say it. But just by saying things, everything wouldn't turn out to be rosy. One needs to listen to the other as well. There are two sides of the same coin. Therefore, before you jump to any conclusion, listen to other's side of the story as well. Whatever it is, try to solve it by yourself. Do not invite others to solve your problem. Do not take gossips seriously.
The best way to understand each other is by spending some time together. No, we aren't asking you to go on exotic dates (although, that wouldn't be such a bad idea) but you should try to find time for each other. The best way to do this would be to do things together. Don't lock yourself away in your rooms. Step out and share the load. By doing things together, you will not only enjoy your work but will get to understand each other as well. You will get to know about each other's way of doing things and thought manner as well.
Most of the times, devranis and jethanis get a little too caught up in the concept of the jethani being the boss. Ladies, that is a cliche and a concept that should be used only by daily soap writers. Real life doesn't follow those rules. The jethani might have been living in that house for longer but now you two are equals. As a jethani, help your devrani to adjust in the new home and as a devrani, you can welcome those suggestions. If you will get stuck in those titles, you won't be able to become friends. And let us tell you, friendship is the most important relationship!
Step in for each other because this is what sisters do! Wouldn't you have your sister's back and help her clean up her mess? If yes, why couldn't you do it for your sister-in-law? Stepping in when one is in need shows care, sympathy and loyalty. You two are one family so helping each other out should be a priority. Be there for each other and mean it. We are sure that this will be humungous for your relationship.
As we mentioned earlier, you should have an open and good conversation with each other, but that doesn't mean that you should try to be a part of every conversation the other one is having. Giving space is important too. Talk to each other, go out for shopping or coffee or both, help each other with chores; but, give each other some space to breathe. Do not interfere too much in each other's lives. Be open while maintaining some boundaries.
Yes, maintaining a relationship is a two-way road but taking the first step wouldn't hurt. Be gentle on your relationship and give it some time. We are sure that with a little patience, efforts and these steps, you will be the best jethani-devrani jodi in your family.
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