By Neelam Jain Last Updated:
Outings, dinners and fancy gifts; there are myriad ways you can make your new bhabhi feel welcomed and special at her new home. But for that genuine smile on her face and for that lifetime adjustment between nanad and bhabhi; it would take a lot more.
More than the materialistic things, it’s the foundation of respect, trust, understanding and friendship that would make her feel wonderfully welcomed. That the bride is feeling comfortable and relaxed in the new atmosphere is ‘welcome’ in real sense. Let’s see how to offer her a happy entry.
This is rule number one- the homework and research work to acquaint yourself to the new bride. To make her easily adapt to the new life, you need to understand her first. And for that you need to know her likes and dislikes, go through her Facebook pages and Instagram profiles and break the ice with her. Also, make an effort to talk about how she would like to spend her free time. Your sister-in-law will definitely feel lighter at her sasural.
To let her have the best of experience and enjoy the smooth-sailing post-marriage, you need to have a good rapport with her. Be a sis-in-law with open mind with whom she can discuss her friends, college time, school crush and even PG stories. As a woman, you should understand her temperament and give her a willing ear. Be friendly and jovial to the new member at home.
At the initial stage of marriage she might not grab the basics at unfamiliar place. So, it’s crucial for you to be her support and offer her a helping hand wherever possible. Be with her while she is doing the chores, decors, laundry, budget and other things related to your family. Be available for her.
It’s usually the girl who is expected to make changes and adjustments. But she has a life of her own and her own values which you got to respect. You need to realise that every individual has their own set of rules and can have their own outlook and viewpoints. Acknowledge them to balance the relationship.
Be it a family discussion, thought-sharing, suggestions or a casual talk; the new bride will find it awkward to communicate. Just take some responsibility and set the tone for the ‘talk’. This is necessary and required for her to open up and mingle. After all, she is a different person from a different background and might find it difficult to present her thoughts. Be a friendly-figure and provide those ‘opening words’.
See, it’s natural for you to show all that love and affection to your sister-in-law, but at the same time it’s harmful to be extra sweet and nice. Extra care and concern will make her feel like a guest. Be the person you are and avoid overindulgence. Why to create a set-up which may not be the case later on? So, let the bond to develop in a natural way. Don’t forget that ‘good terms’ won’t establish overnight.
The wedding is over and now it’s time for the get-togethers, outings and dinner with her. But what about the bride who is facing post-wedding blues like exhaustion, isolation, a sinking feeling, and sadness and has no idea how to cope? So, we suggest you to take things slow. The post-wedding parties sound thrilling, but she might not be in a right frame of mind to attend them all. Have patience and schedule the events in consultation with her. Don’t push it for her.
She has just entered and will take time to understand the change. So, if things go out of order from her end, store them in your mind to be talked about later. It’s not constructive to throw remarks at a person you have just known. Things she is not handling the way they are supposed to, can be discussed in a polite way. Remember, she won’t learn to adapt things in a day’s time.
She is a part of family now but also the girl who has married your brother. So, the focus should be on her relationship with her husband. At the beginning, it’s her life partner that she can rely on for the security, comfort and warmth. So, try and carve out some time for her to be with her husband. She will be appreciative if she is allowed to spend quality time with him and know her better half in a whole new way. Arrange for a lavish dinner or pre-book a movie for them.
There are numerous ways you can show her care and make her feel important. But giving gifts is something that strengthens a bond and elevates happiness. Make her glad with simple gifts which might not be expensive. Give her essential oils, perfume, make-up kits, vanity bag, potpourri etc. The thoughtful presents will bring a smile whenever she uses them.
So, there are more ways you can make your dear sister-in-law feel like a queen at home. But what comes first is to accept her whole-heartedly. The new bride is just another girl like you and she has left everything that was once hers. Relate to her feelings, hopes and dreams with the new family and you will be actually welcoming her with open arms.