By Namrata Arora Last Updated:
Sometimes, life just doesn’t seem to be fair. You give your hundred per cent to a relationship, your marriage to be more specific, do everything possible in your stride to make things work and completely change yourself for the other person, but still nothing changes. And soon, it dies a sad death.
And if your partner is a divorcee too, we hope you did this check: 7 Things To Consider When A Divorced Woman Is Getting Married To A Divorced Man
But, this does not mean that it's happening just with you. Divorces happen, but they aren’t the end of the world. Instead, they are a second innings in life. And you too get your happy ending when it’s the right time and with the right person. So, if you think you have found your Mr. Perfect the second time around, here are ways you can convince your parents for a second marriage.
Don’t break the news to them all of a sudden. They obviously fear that their child can get hurt again and so, keep them updated about all your new friends post your divorce.
You don’t necessarily need to tell them straightaway when you decide to marry. Once you start dating this new person and feel that this could be something more than a fling, leave some hints in front of your parents about how you wish you could have a family of your own or how you miss a companion, etc.
By doing so, you will get to know how your parents generally judge your choice as a person. Also, this will give your folks to bond with him without any pressure. And who knows, they might just tell you themselves that you should consider getting remarried o this wonderful friend of yours.
They might be a little apprehensive, they might say yes or they might just say no. If their answer is in negative, be patient. Don’t scream and shout and impose your decision on them. Yes, you will eventually do what you wish to but wouldn’t it be great to have their support and blessings too? So hang in there and tackle the situation without losing your cool or being pushy.
Your sibling, your aunt or a cousin; anyone you can trust to convince your parents when you are not able to do so.
If your first marriage was an arranged one, you can tell your parents that you listened to their wish the last time. And as they know, the consequences were not too good. But still, you don’t blame them or anything that happened because it is very easy to get fooled. But, you wish for them to trust your decision this time and prove to them how happy you can actually be.
And if he does, this is enough satisfaction for not only you but also your parents to give you a thumbs up!
Their top most concern is that you might get hurt again or you might be rushing into this. They might like the guy but because of their last experience they are apprehensive. And you really can’t blame them for this, can you? Once bitten, twice shy!
How you are happier, how you like to dress up and look good, how motivated you are at work, nowadays and how you are almost back to your previous self. Believe us, they would not want to lose the new you for anything in this world.
You have already been through a lot and so won’t take any hasty or quick decisions, you want it to be perfect this time and so, you will only enter into matrimony once you are a hundred per cent sure about this guy and your relationship together. Talk to your parents like a mature and independent adult and make them know this.
Second chances can be wonderful. Not only the common public but many famous celebrities like Javed Akhtar and Shabana Azmi, Anupam and Kirron Kher, Lara Dutta and Mahesh Bhupathi and many more have proved it over the years too. So, you have every right to have your happily ever after too!