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Being in a successful relationship is proof of how lucky and blessed you are. It makes you a better person, someone who is content with life. [Know how lucky you are to have a beautiful love relationship in your life]. It also teaches you innumerable life lessons. To love someone and be loved back is an honour; one that only the lucky ones get.
So, if you happen to be one of them, here are some rules that you need to accept and follow if you want your relationship to be a fruitful one that lasts till eternity.
You always criticise your partner for all the things that they do wrong. You crib, you fight, you get upset and feel sorry for yourself, right? Have you ever tried the opposite? Have you tried to stay mum when the bad things happen and appreciate them when they do something nice? Learn to say thanks and love them for all that they are.
But, there will be good days too! When troubles come your way, they just do not seem to stop or slow down. They keep popping up one after the other, but you need to stay together always and accept that there will be a lot of downs and lows in your life. However, if you stick together and face them as a team, they will disappear sooner than you imagined.
So, learn to accept your partner’s family with all your heart, as your own. You might not like them much or feel that they get on your nerves at times. But don’t your own parents too seem like that at times?
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Now that you are going to marry their child, you will be together for a long time. So, better be friends than foes!
God made us like that. You may feel that someone is perfect, but no one is! Everyone comes to this planet with their set of flaws. And, even you are no exception to that! The sooner you accept that, the better it is for you as well your relationship!
Thus, always weigh your words before you say them. It is difficult to think straight when you are angry. But, if you do not want to say the things that might hurt your partner really bad when you do not even mean them, try to stay quite when you are angry. And, if your partner yells at you and says mean things when you are amidst an argument, know that it is not what your partner REALLY intends to say.
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We say that we learn from our mistakes! But old habits die hard, and we end up making the same mistakes time and again. So, accept your partner’s faults too, and let them know yours clearly as well. Also, try to change yourself a little and let your mistakes stay behind.
Do you listen to everything your partner says even if you feel you are right? Then how do you expect your partner to do the same? Voice your opinion by all means, but do not expect people to dance to your tunes!
Be happy with what you have. Your partner is a wonderful person even though he might not be as romantic as a Bollywood hero. So, expect less and you will be a happier person, your marriage will be more fruitful and you will be more positive than ever!
And, you do not need to feel guilty about it. In fact, it is completely normal. Your partner might also have the same feeling sometimes. That does not make you a bad person, but just a normal person like everybody else.
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Your partner cannot always read your mind, although you might expect them to. So, say what you want them to do, out and loud. This will help save many arguments and misunderstandings!
Well, this advice is for the ladies. Do not try to hide from your partner your sudden mood swings and anger bursts, which are actually due to PMS. Instead, let him know so that he does not think you are a maniac who gets these sudden mood swings, and is prepared for this to happen every month!
Read this hilarious conversations between husband and wife when she is PMSing and more: What You Say To Your Husband When PMSing And What You Actually Want To Say
You have to understand that you live there. It is supposed to look like people stay in it and not as clean and untouched as a museum. More importantly, if you have kids, your house cannot be clean all the time! So, instead of staying angry and irritated, and cribbing over the messed up house, try to clear up whenever you can and quit stressing.
An out of the blue message from your partner that says 'I love you’, a nice cup of tea for you in bed, setting the table without you telling, a hug when you least expect it, are some of the things that bring in loads of happiness. Try it to believe its magic!
There is another way to create happy memories with your partner, read here: Places Your Partner Wants To Be Touched As Per Their Zodiac
To have a happy future, you need to not only make peace with it, but you also need to stop making comparisons between then and now. The past is history. The present is here for you to cherish and enjoy, and to turn your days today into beautiful memories for tomorrow!
You do not become any less of a person if you say sorry. Instead, it only goes on to show that you do not let your ego come in between you and your partner. Also, leave behind the childish habit of saying, “I told you so”, or “I told you I was right” when your partner says sorry. Be happy that your partner is at least accepting his/her fault!
Small changes, like the way you think, accepting your partner the way they are, and having lesser expectations can transform your relationship in such wonderful ways that you will never regret making those changes!
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