A new parent can be very anxious because it is not just about handling the baby but also making the relationship survive after the baby’s arrival. Baby’s birth can be a testing time for your relationship. It is better to be wise and pay heed to relationship success advices. But, before that let’s address a few setbacks your relationship may suffer in the transition period. Read on to be well prepared in advance:
Loss of Freedom
Admit it! You no longer will have time to live a life your way, at least with that erratic schedule that includes your randomly stationed bed time and eating habits. As new parents, you will be overwhelmed with new set of responsibilities such as changing nappies, staying up whole night, feeding the baby and juggling between other household chores if you don’t live with parents/in-laws. Think it’s the time to hire a nanny?
No ‘US’ time
It is quite apparent that once you are a parent you will be entitled to less ‘us’ time. You will not enjoy the luxury of romancing day and night because you will be loaded with twice as many responsibilities as compared to the past. Your centre of attention changes from your relationship to your baby. This is where your relationship will be tested; don’t be surprised if we say that a lot of strong relationships waver too after your baby’s arrival. However, the good news is that you can speak to your partner and see how you can share the work load and spend as much time together as possible.
Intimacy Issues
You have your tiny toddler around you all the time and this makes you sex deprived? There is no need to forego your desires to revive your sex life. Back in time, when the two of you were dating, didn’t you plan out a getaway for intimate moments? Be crazy (not at the expense of your child’s safety though!) and behave like a crazy couple. Some couples recommend that your bedroom should be baby-free if you want to cuddle up. What say?
Money Honey, Money!
Your baby is plus one, i.e. an additional family member. Expenses will mount because you will have expenditures to look at. Initially you will find yourself spending money on baby’s clothes, nappies, nanny, etc. and later the day care expenses, schooling and other activities that the child may want to indulge in. Remember, you were a kid once too. The needs will more or less be the same. So, talk it out with your partner and get financial strains off your head. Do not forget to keep a track on the budget.
These will be a few hiccups in your relationship, however if you don’t let it overpower, chances are that you will come out of it as a happy and understanding couple. Remember, conflict is OK in relationships. Make sure you’re walking this road of parenthood together.
