By Namrata Arora Last Updated:
As fun filled and joyous as weddings are, there is a darker side to them too. Well, don’t get us wrong as by darker side, we don’t mean goons and guns, but the fights that take place between the bride and the groom over various issues surrounding the wedding. The fights occur because the couple is unable to come to a common conclusion on certain matters.
While they may come to a conclusion for the time being, but those issues can predict the things over which they will always have arguments in the future. Wondering what the codes are? We get for you most of the issues that will determine your post-wedding fight pattern.
If one of the partners wants a lavish and expensive venue, while the other just wants a simple and elegant one, that determines how you two will always have a difference in attitude. The former partner would want pomp and show in all things, big or small, while the latter would want a simple and sober lifestyle.
If one wants chocolate with strawberries and three tiers in the cake, while the other wants 3 different flavours with all kinds of shapes and themes, the two will always have a difference in opinion when it comes to setting up the house. The home décor, the color and style of the curtains, the design of the furniture and the type of flooring; both would have opposite tastes.
If one wants to call even the extended family members while the other stresses more on friends, this will cause fights over family matters and how one person always favours family over friends and vice versa. It also shows how strong or not each of their family bonds are.
If one wants the whole town invited and the other wants to restrict it to just close friends and family, the former being extremely extrovert and social, while the latter being asocial, will be the cause of conflict when it comes to hosting and attending dinners and other get-togethers in the future.
If one wants an itinerary that has no time to even grab a bite to eat, while the other is in favour of a great luxury honeymoon resort on a secluded island with not much to do, you will always have arguments when it comes to deciding holiday destinations. The first partner would want more of sightseeing and adventures, while the other would be in favour of a holiday to sit back, de-stress and relax.
Although deciding whether you want kids to be invited to your wedding or not is more of a westernised concept, the trend is quickly catching up in India with many people opting for it. Well, if you have a fight over this with your would-be partner, it obviously shows who wants kids. The fondness towards kids of one versus the aloofness of the other could be a serious issue when it comes to family planning.
You may want a slow romantic number while your partner would want to dance on all the peppy dance numbers in vogue. Well, simple! This is going to determine the idea of romance and making love you two prefer.
If your partner always wants you to agree with or obey certain family members even if they are outright unreasonable or wrong, this nature would continue always. You may do it during the wedding to avoid any fights or mess, but you may also have to do as they say all your life then. Standing up and speaking up for yourself in a decent manner will do you more good than listening to even the unreasonable demands your partner or his/her family makes.
Fighting as a to-be married couple is not a bad thing. Especially with all the pre-wedding stress, arguments are bound to happen. But, as long as the fights are light and just ‘in the moment’, there is nothing to fear; they are in fact healthy for your relationship. So, tag your spouse to-be and enlighten him or her about what all you will be arguing about in the future, considering what all matters you both do not agree upon now.