By Neelam Jain Last Updated:
Congratulations! You have got engaged recently and you might be enjoying decent time with your partner before saying ‘I do’. These aww-so-cute moments of courtship are to be cherished all your life. But don't let this excitement take hold of you.
Make sure that you don't start saying or doing things that might not go down well with the other person.
These things can have their repercussions like unnecessary quarrels, arguments or even ‘call off’ in the worst case. So, it's very important to mind your steps during this initial phase of the new chapter of your life.
It’s said that for a relationship to work, one must open up about the feelings with that special one. But at the same time, you need to discover if you both are on the same wavelength. Therefore, as a beginner you need to take it slow and steady with the person you have just met. Let the things unfold gradually to avoid misunderstandings or rejections. Bond never builds up in a day’s time and it's quite wise to go slow.
Why would you want to double up on the stress when you are already going mad with the wedding preparations? So, here is another red flag to look out for. Unless it's positively necessary, stay away from the future planning conversations. Also, it is suggested not to go overboard with the discussions related to wedding flowers, honeymoon, kids or house hunting. This will only suffocate your partner drawing him/her away from you.
Courtship is the best time for you to get close, but think twice before your partner gets cold feet because of your actions. Maintaining personal space with your lovely maiden or prince charming is extremely important. No doubt, you both are a change-maker in each other's life, but discussing aspects which can drive him/her crazy can create discontent now as well as in future. So, it's vital to give space to your would-be better half.
It’s quite obvious that you are busy focusing on each other at this stage. But, if you keep hiding your real personality, the other person might get confused so as to who you actually are. It's important to voice your opinion and stop pretending being fond of everything he/she likes. This is a worst kind of start that you can ever have. Be real so that your partner-to-be is aware of your likes and dislikes from the budding stage itself.
No wonder you have become super chatty with romantic text messages during this lovely phase. And your smartphones help you to enjoy the much-awaited intimacy to its full potential. But don’t forget that the tiny texts have a net lingo, which your partner might misinterpret as minced words. So, it’s better to stay away from this non-verbal form of communication as much as possible. The SMSes not only appear unreal, but are also inappropriate to express your real self. It's not that we don't value texting, but hour-long conversations are a no no!
It's not shocking if you are trying hard to please your partner in every possible way. At times you morph yourself a little, go off-track as a fiancé status and spend extra energy to make him/her happy, which is quite understood. But if those are lies and white truths; it would only create a shaky foundation for your future. At times it feels risky to show the real you, but ultimately, your partner has to know it all.
Love, relationship or marriage is something where everyone eventually gets emotional. On the other hand, being practical is a major factor in creating a healthy bond. For example, romance, flowers or going weak on the knees are fine, but trying to force the relationship into something it is not (at this initial stage) is a bad idea. You can let your emotions take a backseat as every situation doesn't call for expressing it out. It's not necessary that she/he would like to share the same cone of ice-cream with you or start uttering those three magical words at the drop of hat. Let the journey be smooth and take its own course, while you are celebrating.
When it is about a relationship, there can never be a set of rules to be followed. In such cases, different personalities hold different perspectives. These were a few dos and don’ts that you all can keep in mind. We hope that you have an enjoyable and lovable courtship.
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