By Namrata Arora Last Updated:
As happy as a bride is to get married and start a beautiful new chapter of her life, because of some stereotypes in our society, she has no option but to be tensed and apprehensive about how good or not her relationship with her future mother-in-law will be.
Especially if she is moving in with them and it is not a nuclear family set up, she has all kinds of questions, doubts, fears in her mind concerning the much-feared and over-hyped saas bahu relationship.
So, we thought of bringing you exactly what every girl would want her mom-in-law to know before she marries her son.
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The wedding, a new journey, forming new relationships and entering a family that is alien to me! It is as scary, intimidating and new for me as it is for you to accept a new member in your family. So, let us help each other out.
I truly love him and want to make him happy as long as I shall live. We complete each other and I would never ever hurt him or put him through any pain.
Nor would I ever want to! You are a wonderful person and have your own equation and space in his life. I can never ever match up to that and will obviously want to make my own identity.
He not only respects me, but other women too. He is a man of his words and treats me like a princess. He also has the highest regards for you and his family. I wish I can do the same with my son.
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And so, I would appreciate if you do not show objection with everything I wear. What I wear makes me feel good and that gives me confidence.
They will always be the most important people on the planet for me. I will always be attached to them. I would want to go and meet them or stay over whenever possible without having to worry about what you would think.
All dressed up for the world to see and compliment you on your choice for your son. I have some dreams and aspirations and a life of my own that I would love to lead!
And so are you. I come with my flaws and positives. We all have our imperfections, but together we make up for each other’s mistakes and inadequacies. Let us not over-expect from each other because after all no one is perfect!
I cannot accept you as my own or gel in with everyone and the new surroundings within a day. I need my space and some time for things to sink in. It is an entirely new chapter for me, and so I need to get things straight for myself.
But, I will ask you for your advice and inputs whenever I am in doubt just like I would ask my own mother. I will value your opinion too, but never expect me to do just as you say.
And would want to continue to work even after marriage! I will look after my new house too, but expecting me as an equivalent of the domestic help would really not be fair. I would want you to treat me as your own daughter, and not the one forced upon you by the law.
It is okay to have different schools of thoughts. We both might just end up agreeing with the other’s view and learn something new. So, let us never force our decisions or opinions on each other.
It is only then that we can carry forward a lifelong relationship based on trust and love for each other. Let us be pals, let us be there for each other, let us share secrets about our common link- your son and my husband, let us go shopping and for movies and let us just be the greatest of friends.
I am not here to take your son away from you. I am not here to show him that I am better either. But, you need to let go a little so that we both can make the foundation of our marriage strong. Your constant interference between the two of us will not do us any good.
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Basically, every bride wants her mom-in-law to give her some space to settle in and allow her to form her own bonds with everyone. She just wants to earn her trust and be on the same page always!
So, you have been with each other for a long time now and your most favourite hobby is to be with each other all the time. What is the next step then? Well, if you love and respect your parents and wish to have their blessings, you need to take theirRead More