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One of the most talented actors in Bollywood, Manoj Bajpayee, needs no introduction. The actor is known for his terrific acting chops and has been a part of some of the most iconic films of the decade. However, while he is popularly known for his rough and tough portrayal on screen, the actor is entirely the opposite regarding his personal life. Manoj is married to erstwhile actress, Shabana Raza and the couple is blessed with a daughter, Ava.
Being a man of few words, Manoj has always kept his personal life low-key. Moreover, Manoj and Shabana become an old-school couple who believe in life-long commitment compared to outward displays of PDA. And now, for the first time, The Lunchbox actor opened up on his married life. In a recent interview on the YouTube channel, Cine Desi, the actor mentioned the secret behind his happy marital bliss. In his words:
“There is no secret, believe me. Every day is a new day, and every day you are trying to correct yourself and improve yourself when it comes to staying in the marriage or understanding the other person. Love alone cannot sustain a marriage, here you have to not focus on yourself and focus on the other person who is in the marriage with you, and look at things from her perspective, in my case.”
Going further in the interview, Manoj put forward an unconventional idea to stay out of frequent quarrels in a marriage. The actor revealed that he has let go of all insecurity and ego and has always ensured to put forth his wife’s perspectives first, thereby being selfless. In his words:
“Shed everything about yourself — your ego, your insecurity, all of these things you’re ready to shed off there are better chances that quarrels will be very less, fires will be minimum. When we keep putting ourselves first, this is where things start to go wrong. If you think that the other person should not ignore a certain thing, I think you should talk at a calmer time. I think talking helps.”
Marriage is an institution that takes a lot of work from both partners. And Manoj has always ensured to sufficiently carry out his portion so that he could lead a happy household. Moving further in the interview, Manoj mentioned how practising meditation has helped him work better overall, such that he becomes a better husband and friend to his wife, Shabana. In his words:
“Meditation is all about practice, some days are very bad, some days are blissful, but the end result is life-changing. It actually makes you work better, actually makes you a better husband, makes you a better father, a better son, better friend.”
Manoj Bajpayee’s life with Shabana Raza began as a case of love at first sight. The duo had met each other as perfect strangers at a party, and Shabana’s get-up for the same had attracted Manoj towards her. In an interview with The Humans Of Bombay, he once recalled how he found Shabana as the only one with oily hair at the party and that she was totally unaffected by the same. In his words:
“I was completely mesmerised. Not only with her beauty but also with the fact that she was there with oiled hair, in such a big party and didn’t care about what others are going to say! The real person inside her really impressed me more than her beauty."
What do you think about Manoj Bajpayee’s recollections of marriage with Shabana Raza?
An actor par excellence, Manoj Bajpayee is one of the rarest gems of Hindi cinema. The actor, who often awestruck his fans with his versatile acting, leads a simple life. Despite being one of the leading names in the Hindi film industry, he finds solace in doing his day-to-day household chores.Read More