At the core of every wedding are the vows, or the saat vachan, that every couple has to take as they tie the knot of togetherness. These vows are culturally very significant, but with changing times, there seems some need to revamp the traditional promises, and add something new to them. Well if you wish, there is certainly room for those pledges to turn into personal statements of your love and commitment. Before you set on the road to a ‘happily ever after’, here are some new age wedding vows that you should make to each other, to set the equation right with your soulmate forever. They may sound unconventional, but will surely ‘wow’ you with their practical merits.
One of you could be the one burning midnight oil and other could be an early morning bird. Valuing this diversity in your relationship will keep both of you in a happy space. While it is fun to do a lot of things together; spending some quality time with yourself is important too. After all, maintaining a little distance will only make the hearts grow fonder, right?
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In fast-paced urban life, it is hardly about “who wears the pants” or “who dons the apron in the kitchen”. Since you are equals and a team, your tasks shouldn’t be gender-based. Just because you are a man, you shouldn’t shy away from preparing the meals; and despite being the wife, you too can provide the bread for your family. Rather, take turns and go for a role-reversal, forgetting about the social stigma. Swapping the work will help you both understand each other better.
We know it is a rare skill, but tuning in to your spouse can help in a successful relationship. No two people are made from the same mould, so let not the mismatch in opinions be the source of frustration. Understanding your partner's viewpoint, and taking their advice will allow your relationship to prosper. If you feel the advice given is not apt, you can express yourself later, but do learn to listen to one another. Swear by this, and enjoy the peace it brings into your marriage.
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Don’t be secretive
You are starting off a new journey, so it is important to treat your partner like a buddy (your partner in crime!). You can hit a bump, if you try to be too mysterious about matters like loans, medical problems, career shifts, etc. It is not fair to be secretive and keep things away from your significant other. Remember, mutual trust is always a deal sealer.
True love makes you want to know everything about your ‘Prince charming’ or ‘Dream girl’. But prying and keeping track of their Facebook or mobile activities would wear away the trust that binds you both together. Frequently monitoring your spouse’s texts or online activities will slowly destroy your relationship. Even if there are concerns, discuss about them honestly with your partner.
You both must understand that parenting is a joint venture. So, make a solemn declaration for dividing responsibilities and tasks after the kid is born, so that it stands fair to both of you. You are expected to show equal contribution in the process of nursing and nurturing the baby. Unburdening each other with a sense of sharing will make your marriage a blissful journey, even after a few years.
No emotional baggage
We accept breakups are ugly, but you shouldn’t carry emotional issues from the past, which may creep in to form cracks in your marriage. If there are disturbing issues from the past, just keep them under the wraps. Your marriage can turn bitter if you are seen sobbing for the reasons unknown to your better half. Just focus on making your new relationship strong and your spouse, happy!
Sure, certain activities of your partner may bother you, but to sustain a healthy relationship, you should not be critical about your partner’s actions. You are making a lifelong commitment, so you need not put them under the scanner at every stage. Do not comment on your spouse while attending a family function or meeting your parents. It will corrode your love life.
Even though marriage warrants privacy, respecting each other’s set of friends is also a crucial part of your relationship. Do not forget that your spouse has people in her life, who are significant to them even before you two met. We do not mean that you should drag your buddies into your personal space, but you should also allow your spouse the freedom to mingle with their group of friends. Promise this to each other, and see the results.
So, how about adding a modern twist to the traditional vows at your wedding? Well, these are some that we could think of. If there is something else that you would like to add to the list, we would love to hear those too. Just leave your comments in the section below.