How To Stop Fighting Over Household Chores With Your Partner After Marriage

Life with your partner before you get married, is a bed of roses. That is because, you only fight over petty issues, like not reaching on time, not replying to messages, etc. It is only when you get married and start to run a house together that you realise the true meaning of marriage.

We do not intend to scare you, but unless you live in a huge joint family set up with designated duties for all members, you do not know what is the real meaning of sharing responsibility. So, here are some tips that you can use to get organised, responsible and split chores between you and your spouse to avoid unnecessary fights revolving around the same.

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#1. Discuss the problem one-on-one

Do you feel you are the only one who is cooking, cleaning, doing the laundry, etc., while your partner is not pitching in to help at all? Instead of cribbing about it to others or getting frustrated, discuss the problem with them and tell them that they need to contribute as well.

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#2. Write down the list of chores/responsibilities

Once the problem is out in the open, you both must sit down together and make a list of all the chores and duties that need to be done on a daily basis. Make two columns, one for chores to be done at home and the other for things that are needed to be done from outside.

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#3. You may choose to do what you are good at

Once you have the list in hand, divide the chores between the two of you. You can do it mutually by picking out the duties that you like or would not mind doing.

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#4. And mutually divide the ones that are left

After picking your favourite chores, sit together and divide the ones that are left. You could either do it with each other’s consent or decide through flipping a coin. We do need a fun element too, now don’t we?

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#5. Incorporate team work

Your partner may not feel well on some days or would be unable to do his/her part for the day. Realise that you two are a team and if one teammate cannot do their part, you need to step in and help them out. Also, doing house work as a team will not only get chores completed faster, but will also give you more time to spend with each other.

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#6. If required get help

If you feel that certain things cannot be done by the both of you due to other work commitments or time issues, get some help. A cook, a cleaner, or whoever you need to relieve you of your duties.

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#7. Supervise the domestic help

Only getting the help is not sufficient. You have to be present to supervise the work you want and monitor it too. So, supervision of different chores being done by the domestic help should also be divided, that is, who will take care of what.

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#8. Swap duties every once in a while

You may get bored doing the same things again and again every single day. To avoid the monotony, swap your duties every once in a while to do something new and add your personal touch to it.

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#9. Compliment each other about how well the job has been done

Appreciation can do wonderful things for a relationship. So, compliment each other’s work. Even if you are not very satisfied with it, say it is a job well done. This would surely motivate your partner to put in some more effort even next time.

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If you follow these simple steps and are able to come to a mutual conclusion as to what all work will be done by whom, you will be able to say goodbye to a lot of stress. You will also avoid all the useless fights that take place over one or both partners not doing their share. In short, here is the key to the doors that lead to a happy marriage!