A perfect marriage is not the one where nothing ever goes wrong. If you have this fairy tale perception about marriages, then you may land up yourself in the soup. So before this thought gets you in any kind of trouble, buckle up and realise that fighting is an integral part of any marriage. 'No fight' is as equally terrible for a relationship as is the 'continuous fighting'. Here is a short list of what sparks a fight, simple ways to prevent them and how to solve them if they get out of hand.
#1. Daily Chores
This is a common issue that pops up every now and then. Shirking simple chores is something that all couples are guilty of and sometimes, it ignites a row that can bring other small problems on to the table. Since household chores are so small, you tend to ignore them and if this happens over a period of time, your partner will throw a fit sooner or later. The only way you can avoid such a clash with your partner is by sticking to your chores.
This could turn ugly if you are not open to what your partner has to say. Whether you go for a beach trip or a mountain trek, make sure you give your partner enough space so that you don’t end up having arguments instead of a happy holiday.
Okay, this is something you need to navigate very carefully or you can land up having a major fight with your spouse. When you are planning something with your friends make sure you tell your partner about it in a proper manner. Similarly, do not object when your partner looks forward to spend some time with his/her friends.
This might seem like a petty thing to bring up, but you would be surprised to learn that many marital fights crop up because one partner hogged all the TV time. Make sure you give your other half a chance to watch his/her favourite shows also.
This is one area that you need to deal with utmost care. Passing comments regarding your partner’s family could be the starting point of a heated argument. This can happen over even the smallest of remarks, so ensure your partner and you don’t end up quarreling over a family member.
Have been spending extra hours at office so that you can nail that promotion? Make sure you don’t ignore your partner while doing so. Also, do not annoy your spouse by bringing your work to home. As this can become the basis of many fights, try to maintain a balance between your personal and professional life.
#7. Physical intimacy
This is an important issue that sometimes causes a lot of friction between couples. You need to sit down with your other half and discuss any issues that could be hampering your love life. Instead of starting a fight, try to understand the reason behind the argument and solve the matter.
Fights in a marriage can be handled in a proper manner and even side-stepped if you know what you are doing. However, it is impossible to avoid arguments always and if you do find yourself in such a situation make sure you know how to calm things down.