It is your first day after marriage and you are feeling nervous. On top of it, your mother-in-law wants you to cook dal, chawal, sabji and definitely a sweet dish for lunch. You are panicking, because the pallu of your saree or your poor cooking skills are adding to your nervousness of pleasing your in-laws. Seems like a nightmare?
Every bride must be nodding in agreement right now. So, all you soon-to-be brides, as you are busy with selecting the perfect dress, making guest lists and booking a makeup artist; it is time to also learn a few important lessons to impress your in-laws from the very moment you step in the new house. So, we have prepared a short guide that will tell you all the things you need to learn before you enter your new household.
1) Ashirwad (blessings)
Whenever you are introduced to an elderly in the family, you must touch their feet to take their ashirwad (blessings). If you are wearing a saree, then be careful of your pallu. You should tie it firmly in place with safety pins, to save yourself from the embarrassment of it coming off. You should practice bending down in front of the mirror a couple of times, to see that your blouse is not too deep. Some elders expect the newly-wedded bride to cover her head while taking ashirwad. While you may not believe in this custom; you still would not hurt their sentiments. So, just cover your head for a while to make them happy.
2) Griha Pravesh (entering the new home)
During your griha pravesh, you will be welcomed into your new house by your mom-in-law, with an aarti. You will have to enter the house with your right foot first. Remember, this is an important part of the custom. Whether you are stepping in a tray of kumkum (vermillion) or toppling the kalash (pot) filled with rice, right foot comes first.
Also, if you want this entire ceremony to go smoothly, take off your heels beforehand and wear some comfortable slip-ons. You will have to remove your footwear for these ceremonies, and you would not want to struggle with removing your sandals at the doorsteps as your mom-in-laws awaits with the puja ki thali.
In most Indian homes, morning prayers are a daily ritual. Well, even if you are not too religious, you still would not want to offend your elders with your aloofness. So, brush your memory of a few basic aartis. Also, do not eat anything before the morning prayers. Other than this, it is generally a good idea to get up early in the morning, take a bath, and then help your mom-in-law with the day’s preparations.
4) Draping a saree
During your wedding, a bunch of people will be helping you to get dressed. But in your new house, you will be alone. So, learn how to drape a saree really well. Before you start draping your saree, always wear your sandals to determine the overall height. Your pleats should be neat and firmly in place. Use safety pins to fasten them well. For a puja, place the pallu on the head and opt for a simple blouse. For other occasions, do not hesitate to experiment with the draping style and the blouse.
Maybe your in-laws would not expect you to be an expert cook, but as a part of the custom, you will be required to make one sweet dish on your first day after marriage. Kheer is one of the easiest desserts to make. All you need to do is boil milk till it becomes thick then add sugar, vermicelli and dry fruits. Stir it on a low temperature. Before your wedding, practice how to make a good kheer or any other meetha (bake some cupcakes or a cake if you think your in-laws might like that!). This mouth-watering sweet will help you to get in your mum-in-law’s good books.
Well, it is not necessary that your in-laws will want you to stay in the kitchen at all times. But, basic cooking skills will come handy to make a good impression. So, familiarise yourself with different vegetables, lentils and spices. Take a crash course in cooking with a simple dal and a couple of simple vegetables like aloo jeera, bhindi and so on. We are sure, you would like to amaze your mom-in-law with your skills of making round chapattis and pooris at the first go; so practice daily.
7) Basic makeup
Brush your basic knowledge of makeup before you get married. Kohl, mascara, lip gloss, foundation, makeup remover, moisturiser, and a makeup palette containing eye shadow, blushes and brushes are the things you require for basic makeup. Before you apply makeup, always clean your face, dab it dry and apply a moisturiser. Next, start applying a foundation on your face and follow it up with eye shadow and kajal, and blush. Apply your lip gloss and you are good to go!