When you are in love, everything about your partner seems perfect, especially in the initial stages of your relationship. Once the lovey-dovey phase is over and the ‘getting used to’ phase seeps in, it becomes difficult at times to adjust. As they say, you get to see your partner in his or her true colours. In today’s modern life, the increasing levels of stress result in greater domestic brawls, straining your relationships further.
What causes aggression?
Economic boom in India has made people rich, but it has also changed several attributes in them. Aggression is commonly seen in people today. Subtle disagreements turn into violent arguments. Indulgence in addictive habits like alcohol, smoking, tobacco make matters worse etc.
Anger seems to be getting the best of every individual. Not just men, but also women fall prey to this aggression. The side effects of having a hot temper and extensive mood swings include several health risks like high or low blood pressure and cardio vascular diseases that can even lead to a heart attack.
How to calm an angry mind and control an aggressive behaviour?
If your partner is short tempered, you should be the one to calm him or her down or be ready for the ‘big fights’. An eye for an eye makes the world blind. Try not to retaliate when he or she’s angry. A little sacrifice on part of your ego can contribute a lot in making your marriage happy and successful. Keep your tone low and Do Not point fingers. Yelling and shouting will take your relationship nowhere.
Once her mood is back to normal, sit with her and communicate your feelings that how hurt and bad you feel when she lets her mood swings go haywire. Explain the repercussion of fights on her health, the mutual respect between the two of you and the relationship. A modern day alternative is to go for yoga or meditation sessions together. This helps to calm the mind and makes the relationship stronger.