Not every married life can be blissful, especially sexually. You and your partner might strike a rapport on an emotional ground, but when it comes to physical intimacy something holds back and you just don’t click. Many people feel frustrated about it and are not able to cope up with it. The irritability gets evident in their behavior and at workplace.
A little self-control and a little self-help can make you sail through this rough patch. Just follow a few of these suggestions.
Do not set high sexual expectations
Too have sexual expectations out of him or her is important in a married life, but not the only thing. Maybe your partner is indulging in some other ways, which you are not paying attention to. For instance, holding hands, running errands for you, throwing surprises and buying you gifts. All these are ways of expressions. If your partner is not good with physical expression, it doesn’t mean he loves you less. Maybe if you look around then you will find that he’s making it up elsewhere. Just be aware and appreciate your partner for what he is and not for what he isn’t.
Adjustment and better understanding
Try and compromise to fulfil the demanding needs at times. Maybe you don’t have the appetite, but you will learn to enjoy eventually. A little adjustment and a change in mindset may help both of you to overcome the issue. Remember the compromising factor is based on love and mutual trust.
Spend Time Together
Grow close and try doing things which are a source of joy for both of you. Gardening, reading books, travelling or simply watching TV or sharing popcorn can be your partner’s preferred activity. If men, then indulge in those electronic gizmos or movies and in case of a woman, treat her to a spa or fine dining or maybe some retail therapy to perk her up. These small activities help in filling those loopholes.
Look at the brighter side of him/her
Cope with other difficulties together to assess the love quotient. The challenges do not come in bed alone. In a married life, there are many challenges to be faced. Be it in the extended family or your family, children or regular household matters, the challenges that come are galore. Try and see how supportive or hell bent your partner is in solving them. If he or she is that means there are far more good things in your marriage than mere physical complications.
Other Interesting Activities
In spite of looking at all the good points in your relationship, if your frustration still surfaces then try and channelize them through other creative channels. The act will curb the frustration and help you cope with those unfulfilled desires. Let the adrenalin rush be drained in activities that bring some colour and fun into your life. It could be a hobby, a friendly chat with your friend (mind you it shouldn’t be about the issue as that will make you more frustrated) or simply going out for walk.